CHOICES IN LIFE 1

AJbers, I am about to talk about life under water.  For reference sake I will call this story 'Choices in Life 1.

Judith: I am really in love with Kay. But he hasn't proposed marriage to me yet. We have been going out for over 6 years now. Whenever I raise the topic about marriage, he smiles and tells me he'll marry me. That ends the conversation. I am not getting any younger. I am going to be 33 in  December. My biological clock has a sickness called  'expiring psychosis'. My alarm is blowing. What am I suppose to do? How do I let him know that he has to marry me? Oh Yaa, Dave, Tope, Shafa, won't I marry?

(Starts crying)

Mimi: Aww Judith stop crying... Look...you have to understand that marriage is not everything. I do not know why you see it that way. You love Kay, Kay loves you- what more do you to add to that? you guys have great chemistry. Your love for eachother is the most important thing. Marriage is secondary, everything else is tertiary. Just... Just hang on there ok? You should not rush. Age is just a number. God's time is the best. So relax and wait in prayers for the time that Kay himself will ask you to marry him. It could even be tommorow or in 10 years time.. Just don't pressurise him. Some men do not like pressure. Besides you know you guys do not have to marry to be called 'couple' right?

Shafa: Mimi, Mimi, Mimi, don't you downplay the importance of marriage! Marriage is the most important thing o... hmmm Anyway Judith, please listen ok, my advice for you is to get pregnant for Kay. When you do this, he will have to marry you. see, it was because I got pregnant for my husband that's why we are happily married today o... and...

 (Mimi interrupts)

Mimi: Noooooo. No No No! don't ever get pregnant for a man you are not married to ooo. He will simply tell you to abort it. Like  Charlie told me to. I am talking from personal experience o (pauses)...Because the fact that  hanging pregnancy on a man's neck to make him propose marriage to you, eventhough worked for Shafa doesn't mean it will work for you. It did not work for me. Anyway enough of that! back to what you just said Shafa; Marriage is not everything. In the bible, we are told that not all men or women need to marry. Apostle Paul himself was never married and he said it was ok if you can resist. So the argument about marriage being the most important is just an argument that people use to force others to wear wedding rings, gowns, suits and make merry, having the notion that if you are a lady and you don't marry, then it means you are not a wife material. I mean, see our friend Yaa (she points to her and laughs).Before she married, she was a 'ching-gi-lin-gi' (slim) babe. Now look at her... She is now 'Obolobo' (Fat) going to the nasty stage. How good can marriage be when it turns a beautiful girl into this?..No ofence o... But Yaa you know the point I am trying to make right? So Judith do not listen to Shafa... or do not let anyone pressurise you into marriage oo wai. Try to enjoy your single life before you walk down the aisle.... The moment you walk down there,  you are finished! plus. Anyway,  you don't have to be married to be called a couple ok...

Yaa: Haabah Mimi! you don't need to insult me! I am happily married. Yes I know I have put on some flesh, but that is because my bones have grown in size with only little increase in flesh which I will still lose anyway. I will once again become the 'ching-gi-lin-gi' you once knew... you wait and see.

(Pauses for a while) My answer is simple Judith. If a guy will not propose marriage to you, dump him and move on! After all the bible said something like errr, you should date for maximum of two years. if after two years you see no sign of marriage arangement, leave and move on. Look.. there are many men out there. Find someone who will propose marriage to you and marry that person. If.. you like, you can start by making Kay know there are other men interested in marrying you. For all you know Kay may not even be the right person for you. So my advice is, give him an ultimatum and if he doesnt propose, then dump him. I gave my husband ultimatum before he proposed to me. We are now happily married. If I had not done so, Maybe I would have been like  Mimi who doesn't believe in marriage because she doesn't have anyone who doesn't want to marry her.

( teases Mimi)

Mimi: But there are no guys after Judith. Are there? Judith, have you considered moving in with Kay?

(Judith is surprised)

I know it sounds shocking ok but is it really that shocking? We are in the 21st century. Things are changing. I can understand your misgiving about moving in with Kay. But see it this way o... You are moving into a house with a man that you love, a man that you will marry eventually. Let me tell you that, I am a woman. and I know certain men will never marry unless they have to- unless you force them.

You visit Kay everyday and he sees you everyday and you guys do things together everyday. You sleep on Kay's bed and he sleeps on yours and you guys F****, pardon my French background. So therefore my dear,  what is the diference? ... look, you can pretend that you guys are not having sex and pretend you are a virgin where Kay would come and marry you from your father's house when you are not a virgin anyway.... (clears throat)  This will be high level of hyprcrisy and you know it.. You and Kay are already living like married couple in secret and pretending to the whole world that you are just dating. You are as good as married my friend. So move in with him!. This way, he will be reminded about why he must propose.... All I am saying is that, instead of making this a secret thing,- which makes it worse living a lie anyway. You know the proverb that " Anything that you do in secret will be brought out to the open" Judith do not live your life because of what people will say. That is not the way to live. You need to do what you feel is important, and not what everyone else will say.

Shafa: (Surprised and angry) Mimi which kind of advice are you giving Judith. That she should not consider marriage as very important event in her life? Do you know how people look at unmarried women from 33  years onwards? People look at them as if they are unfortunate. .... (Calms down) I am married  and I can tell you that marriage is a very beautiful thing, (Annoyed) How can she move in with Kay when they are not married?. (Turns to Judith) Judith don't listen to Mimi. She herself said you shouldn't listen to people.

Judith: (Turns towards Shafa and  makes sarcarstic facial expression  towards Mimi) Thank you Shafa. How can I move in with a man I am not married to? That is high level of fornication...... How can you even suggest that to tme Mimi? Everyone will know we are 'shagging'! Dont try to turn me into 'ashawo'. I am born again sister  oo...

Mimi: (Starts laughing)You are born again what? and 33 years old and not married? hmmm you should know you are not doing something right then. With all the brothers out there, you are still consolling yourself that you are ok. And you are doing 'Holy-holy'. As if you are a virgin. You are already fornicating so cut the bul****. there is no virgin in this room. Even Yaa and Shafa were not virgins before they got married. (She turns to Shafa) If Shafa's husband knew what Shafa did before he married her...

Shafa: (Cuts in angrily...) Are you insulting me? What is your problem? what's wrong with you? Or you are jealous that at your age you are not married whiles I am? My husband married a good girl like me unlike your boyfriend who doesn't even want to see your face after 'banging' you. The past is past! We are talking about Judith and not me! You know you might end up sleeping with everything in trouser and not marry! I don't even know what to call you! you are worse than a dog- an unfortunate dog! Shut your mouth and let sane people give Judith advice! I don't think you should even be talking!

(The whole room is silent. There were more horrible words used which is not appriopriate for me to write down here. But Mimi later stormed out, shaking with anger, Shafa hisses and turns to Judith)

Shafa: as I was saying before that idiot opened her striking-stinking mouth, you need to have a serious discussion with Kay. Let him know how you feel and that you are not getting any younger. Then give him an ultimatum... If he doesn't propose, then you guys are not meant to be. If a man loves you, he won't keep you waiting forever. 5 years is a very long time to wait for a proposal.

 (both part ways...) scene one fades....

(two days later)

Mimi: (On the phone) Hey Judith, as I said before. I think you should move in with Kay-that is the only real advice that I can give you. I know that you love him. Shafa  was talking about get-pregnant for-him nonsense. Its not time for that yet. Yaa is talking rubbish about you dumping him for another guy. She doesn't want you to be happy, Shafa and Yaa's views are extremist views. Mine is more realistic and straigh forward. so listen to me oo...

Judith: Thank you so much Mimi. I will think deeply about what you've said. ok. Thanx again bye.. (Hangs up the phoone)

(Mimi looks at her wrist watch. The time was  5pm. She dials a number)

Mimi: (On the Phone) Hey sweet boo, I am horny oo. what do you think? (she expresses excitements and hangs up)

(She gets into an erotic mood. after 20 minutes, her doorbell rings) Se Opens the door and see her boo, with a kiss she usher him into her apartment. They straighway kiss passionately in a hungry manner as though they had just been released from separate cells. Fury passion I would say. Dave makes his way to Mimi dinning table and sweeps off every object on the table and lifts up Mimi, placing her ass on the table, lifting her left leg to place on the nearby chair, moves inbetween her thighs and kisses her passionately.  He later pulls Mimi's ass to the very edge of the table as he starts undresseing her. with moans and yearning, the Mimi also starts to  undresses Dave her boo. The end results is what you are thinking...

fades off...

Mimi: (On the Phone with Kay) Hi Kay, Judith is upset with you that you haven't proposed marriage to her. I adviced her to step it up by moving in with you. But you know  that cannot happen because you have to make time for me as well. You can give her an engagement ring to console her. I can even get you a ring to give her.... To be continued

Watchout for Choices in Life 2

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